Repeatedly most all of us have heard the phrase: Don’t cry over spilled milk. We understand this concept well. Don’t waste time or emotion on accidents or other unpleasant events. Clean up, forget, move on. This is a simple statement that offers profound wisdom if applied.
Recently a personal acquaintance expressed understanding of the importance to keep negative thoughts and images out of his mind but emphasized that it was easier said than done. Said he: “I can’t seem to do it as hard as I try.”
Granted, life does not always appear to flow smoothly; sometimes we struggle with seemingly heavy obstacles. Yet wisdom dictates that the accomplishment of any outstanding feat requires concentrated time and effort. To coin another common phrase: Rome was not built in a day.
The important concept is language. The spoken or written word has tremendous impact. We read in the book of Genesis:
And God said, Let there be light: and there was light.
However we wish to interpret this biblical passage, the important concept to consider is that word or language ignites the creative process. The written or spoken word bursts the flames of creation.
Whatever it is that we assign to language we create. Therefore it is crucial to be aware of the words that we write or speak.
If we desire something in our lives, grant it energy; think it, dream it, write it, speak it, imagine it. Devote all energy to it.
Whatever it is that we do not desire, remove the energy; cease all communication, internal, as well as external. In other words, do not think it, feel it, speak it, or write it. Stop believing it, expecting it. Put it to rest.
Now let’s return to this spilled milk concept. Don’t cry when it happens. Give as little energy to whatever it is that you do not want or what disturbs you in any way. Stop entertaining thoughts or emotions in anything if it makes you distraught.
Focus only on what you desire. Keep all energy there. Master your internal world.
Let me state this another way:
Focus only on what you want, never on what you do not want.
But wait a minute, how do you do that?
You just do. Want some help? Here’s a suggestion: Stop thinking about a pink elephant.
Stop thinking about pink elephants.
Yes, it is absurd, so why are you thinking about pink elephants? Because the more you concentrate on not thinking of something, the more the concept or idea appears in your mind. The more you think about it, the more energy you provide for its creation.
Okay, so you can’t get the idea of a pink elephant out of your head. A jet plane rapidly falls from the sky. In just a matter of seconds it might crash upon you. Are you thinking about that pink elephant?
Of course not. You are only thinking about your survival. Your mind is distracted onto a far more crucial matter at hand (your survival) over a nonsensical, nonexistent concept that had incessantly woven its way into your mind.
So this is the key. If you don’t like thinking about something, distract yourself to something else. There are plenty of ways to do that. Consciously establish a place in your mind that appeals to you. Let it be a dream, something that entices you. When disturbing circumstances appear in the outer world learn to focus on that special place within you, that place you have reserved just for you.
A most common error we learn to make early within our vulnerable mortality is to become disturbed over outer events in our lives. What we fail to understand is that the more energy that we invest in anything, the more we attract that to ourselves, whether or not it is something that we desire or disdain.
Imagine residing in a special control booth where the planet earth only projects itself on a special screen.
The world is light years away from you, but with the controls at hand, you can manipulate that planet anywhere and anyway you desire. You have no attachment to outcome. Every action you take has a profound effect. You are calm and serene through the entire process. After extensive practice, you sharpen your skills into manipulating that planet into a beautiful place that you can observe upon that screen. You mastered the world.
This concept is not so farfetched. The control booth is within you; it is your mind, your inner world, your internal kingdom, that special place reserved only for you.
Without your permission, no one else can enter within. It is your sacred temple. You sit at the helm with controls in hand. The outer world, all external conditions, is malleable, responding and therefore manifesting in form and motion to whatever you determine from within your being.
Your imagination is the key.
Yes, I will repeat that. Your imagination is the key. Creating images from within, that is what imagination means. You “image in” or set “in” to “image” within the mind.
So the question is: Do you allow the festering of your mind to control you, or do you choose to control the mind? You can always replace unwanted feelings and images with distraction. You deliberately design more pleasant distractions to consider when internal storms suddenly appear.
Don’t stay out in the storm dangerously exposed to the elements. Go inside. Go within to your safe and pleasant refuge. It is waiting. You built this place. You created it. You imagined it. Now it is yours to enjoy.
Keep your refuge swept and garnished, beautifully decorated to enjoy. Anything that disrupts your internal peace, discard. Anything.
This same person whom I previously noted specifically referred to forgiveness when he stated that “it was easier said than done.” He plagued himself with a grudge toward his father over the past eighteen years. When this man was a vulnerable teenager his father reportedly placed him in a dangerous situation that could have taken his life. Fortunately he survived, but he would never allow himself to forget the mental “image” that his father never valued him sufficiently. From that time forth their relationship suffered.
Today this same individual endures serious depression. Surely the cause does not stem solely from this one incident with his father, but it is a major factor, nonetheless. Through his unwillingness to forgive or discard a negative image within his mind, he set a precedent for other circumstances in his life where he failed to release the negative images, as well. In other words he had a pattern of unreleased grudges freely residing in his psyche. He was tormented, festered by the internal naggings of his mind.
He chose to live outside within the storm, as though that was his normal way of life. He was angry with unresolved issues tucked away into his dusty mental crevices that most often expressed as depression (unexpressed anger or anger with a lid on it) and at times rage when the volcano would eventually disrupt.
In truth, his problems were hardly different from many of ours. Can you identify?
This man is now into the early years of middle age. He wasted half his life away with unresolved issues that could dissipate with one firm resolve. Granted he enjoyed good experiences, as well, so his life is certainly no entire waste, but so many of his day to day events were buried in the dooming outcast of darkened clouds.
The sun is ever shining behind those clouds. Part them.
From your internal place of refuge, call out and demand: Peace, be still.
He insisted that forgiveness was no easy concept.
Running for your life when a crashed jet plane is about to explode is no easy concept. But we understand the consequences of explosions where the aftereffects might well take our lives or maim us over remaining mortal years.
A major reason we fail to forgive is that we fail to comprehend the long-term consequences of holding grudges. A lack of forgiveness is far more damaging to the one failing to release this mental chain of bondage over another person. The unforgiven might well experience ramifications of another person’s failure to forgive, but it is only secondary to the damage the person failing to forgive places upon self. This negative energy has a devastating effect that will indeed maim us for life or at least until we choose to release this other person from emotional bondage.
Incidentally, after some resolve, this person chose to contact his father and establish peace. He determined to take a major first step in cleaning up his inner world to ensure a lasting state of peace and to dissipate that cloud of gloom always hanging over him.
I emphasized before the importance of language. If we want to change a habit, write out our dreams, not night dreams, but daydreams, those dreams that are closest to our hearts.
Is there one soul in all existence that fails to desire personal peace and contentment at the deepest levels?
We all seek peace. And peace is our divine birthright. Claim it. Invest no energy into anything that disrupts this internal solace.
Make a list of everything you truly want in your life. Place it into written form. Speak it as though it is your reality now. Because in truth, it is.
Remember you are in that control booth. The designing instrument (pen) is in your hand. Imagine (image in) what you desire and limit yourself to nothing within your dreams. Establish it firmly in your psyche; speak it, let the word come forth, and thus creation begins. Review this list from time to time. More than all else, know that the truest desires of your heart placed into language (verbal and written form) have already appeared. It is just a matter of your external world catching up to the internal creative process. At some point, you will recognize (re-know) the outer images, the external circumstances manifested from within your imagination.
Hold onto your dreams and dream big. Doubt not, fear not, discard all negativity. Run powerfully for your survival whenever any potential crash or explosion is about to occur. Run hard from potential damage that can destroy your internal being. To coin another phrase: Avoid it like the plague.
So whenever any problem plagues you, walk away. Trust your intuition will discover all solutions that you require. It is out of your hands, and for the sake of internal peace, keep it that way.
Easier said than done? You still have all that spilled milk to clean up?
Just allow those pink elephants to devour it. Trust me; they will never let you down.